PAIN IS EXCLUSIVE PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
Aruna Sanbaug, dies after 42 years of lying in vegetable state.
She was a survivor of a rape attempt when she was just 27 and dreaming about
her married life with a doctor. Her co nurses took care of her for all these
years in an exemplary manner, except that they could not share her pain,
literally, I mean.
It is said that pain and grief are reduced and happiness is
increased by sharing. It may be true in some sense. It is also said that when
you laugh world laughs with you but when you weep, you weep alone.
Pain, bodily or otherwise is exclusive personal experience.
It can be described, explained and pin pointed but cannot be shared. Say I am
suffering from a severe back pain. I can describe it, explain how I feel and
pin point the area where exactly I feel it but I cannot make anybody else to
share it with me. I will have the consoling, encouraging and remedial
prescriptions from members of the family, friends and physicians but as far as
the pain is concerned I will only have to bear it. Same applies for any
emotional pain such as loss of life in the family.
Thousands of people are lying in the vegetable state in
hospitals and homes. Thousands of people are grieving for the loss of life in
families. There are hundreds of pain killers for bodily pains, medicines for
treating depression and there are hundreds of yoga gurus teaching yoga to
reduce the pains but there is no way one can share the pain with anybody and
reduce it.
How often did we feel if, only if for a brief period and
only a fraction, we could share the pain of our beloved parents, spouse,
children and friends! No way. We may
have some idea of the severity of the pain but are totally helpless in reducing
it by sharing.
Aruna also had the
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