LOVE IN MARRIAGE IS A CRAZY DREAM
Having eaten the forbidden fruit Adam and Eve proceeded on a long journey of procreation. A couple in the beginning of creation is now six and a half billion strong sea of humans. The relationship between man and woman initially was on a might is right mode. Then the institution of marriage evolved. The latest version is live in relationships.
Is procreation is result of love or passion or both? Nature seems to be working in favor of passion. Love is an after- thought. There is that fatal attraction between sexes which brings them closer to each other. The dominant factor, again, is passion, conveniently called love. Society does not believe there can be friendship between a man and a woman without that element of sex, though it is quite possible.
Marriage is also termed as compromise between two humans borne out of basic needs of home, food and clothing, man providing the role of provider and woman the role of care taker. Despite the difference in individuality, both play their roles to the hilt for the sake of their off springs borne out of, again, passion.
Marriage is seen as social permission to procreate. Procreation cannot take place without marriage or social permission; it is far more convenient to have it. When two individuals live together for a long time, they get used to each other which some may like to call love.
Love marriages fail because the so called lovers fail to compromise and get used to each other. Love is not strong enough to hold them together. In fact, it is rather impossible that two individuals will have the same feelings at the same time except possibly the need for a passionate hug.
Marriage is a trick played by nature to make children to guarantee its continuity. Love otherwise is a crazy dream.
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
NOSTALGIA BELONGS TO MUSEUM
NOSTALGIA BELONGS TO MUSEUM
Nostalgia can mean home sickness or a desire to revisit the past. It is normally used to remember our past, its sweet memories. It can also include the carefree days within the walls of the college or perhaps the dreams lived with first love.
Some people believe nostalgia is the luxury for the weak and emotional. People made of sterner stuff move on. They carry no baggage on their backs. They simply enjoy the present. They believe nostalgia has a place only in the museum.
Museum is a place where interesting objects of arts and science are displayed . You visit the museum, appreciate the collection and come out. There is no attachment.
People migrate to different lands in search of better opportunities in their youth. The plan is to return as a big and successful man. This seldom happens. Home becomes a thing of nostalgia. Once in a while he revisits his home, stays for a while, and appreciates its soil and returns, just like a visit to the museum.
Sterner people return permanently only if the home can offer them better life with better opportunities. For them any land is good enough it can meet their need and greed.
Some people get uprooted from their lands for political reasons (1947 India –Pakistan Partition) or war or natural calamities. I believe they always long to go back. They are nostalgic about everything of their roots. They may or may not return but will never part with the nostalgia. For them nostalgia does not belong to museum.
Nostalgia can mean home sickness or a desire to revisit the past. It is normally used to remember our past, its sweet memories. It can also include the carefree days within the walls of the college or perhaps the dreams lived with first love.
Some people believe nostalgia is the luxury for the weak and emotional. People made of sterner stuff move on. They carry no baggage on their backs. They simply enjoy the present. They believe nostalgia has a place only in the museum.
Museum is a place where interesting objects of arts and science are displayed . You visit the museum, appreciate the collection and come out. There is no attachment.
People migrate to different lands in search of better opportunities in their youth. The plan is to return as a big and successful man. This seldom happens. Home becomes a thing of nostalgia. Once in a while he revisits his home, stays for a while, and appreciates its soil and returns, just like a visit to the museum.
Sterner people return permanently only if the home can offer them better life with better opportunities. For them any land is good enough it can meet their need and greed.
Some people get uprooted from their lands for political reasons (1947 India –Pakistan Partition) or war or natural calamities. I believe they always long to go back. They are nostalgic about everything of their roots. They may or may not return but will never part with the nostalgia. For them nostalgia does not belong to museum.
YOUTH IS A DEFECT THAT IS CORRECTED WITH TIME
YOUTH IS A DEFECT THAT IS CORRECTED WITH TIME
The inspiration for this topic is Mr. Lalit Modi’s (IPL Commissioner facing corruption charges) admission that he did do drugs during his student days in USA and he termed it as indiscretion. He is the grandson of Late Gujar Mal Modi, founder of the Modi Group of Industries and must have had right upbringing. There may be so many instances of such indiscretion resulting from weakness, anger, lack of judgment or simply youthful adventure. Youth is aggressive, intolerant, reckless and restless.
There is no denying the fact that our youths are talented and they continue excelling in performing arts, academics, sports, profession, business and every other field. But a good percentage of them fall prey to various temptations in young age. Experimenting drugs, smoke, wine, junk food and all such harmful addictions is a part of their growing up. Reckless driving, road rage, cruel and senseless ragging in educational institutions, disrespect for elders, rape in moving cars, kidnapping for quick money to meet extravagancy, dangerous biking and all such mindless activities are part of this process. It is another issue if it is done because of peer pressure of just for the fun of it. These traits stay for a long time till something drastically alters the course of life. Being casual at best and non believers at worst towards religion can also be attributed to young mind that wants to explore all things before admitting and accepting.
These defects (?) get corrected with time as one grows. Time enables to distinguish between good and bad and the wheels of time make one sober, compromising and eager to adjust and adapt to the circumstances. When one is young nothing seems to be impossible and as he grows older he wants everything to be certain.
Is it therefore correct to say that youth is a defect that is corrected with time?
The inspiration for this topic is Mr. Lalit Modi’s (IPL Commissioner facing corruption charges) admission that he did do drugs during his student days in USA and he termed it as indiscretion. He is the grandson of Late Gujar Mal Modi, founder of the Modi Group of Industries and must have had right upbringing. There may be so many instances of such indiscretion resulting from weakness, anger, lack of judgment or simply youthful adventure. Youth is aggressive, intolerant, reckless and restless.
There is no denying the fact that our youths are talented and they continue excelling in performing arts, academics, sports, profession, business and every other field. But a good percentage of them fall prey to various temptations in young age. Experimenting drugs, smoke, wine, junk food and all such harmful addictions is a part of their growing up. Reckless driving, road rage, cruel and senseless ragging in educational institutions, disrespect for elders, rape in moving cars, kidnapping for quick money to meet extravagancy, dangerous biking and all such mindless activities are part of this process. It is another issue if it is done because of peer pressure of just for the fun of it. These traits stay for a long time till something drastically alters the course of life. Being casual at best and non believers at worst towards religion can also be attributed to young mind that wants to explore all things before admitting and accepting.
These defects (?) get corrected with time as one grows. Time enables to distinguish between good and bad and the wheels of time make one sober, compromising and eager to adjust and adapt to the circumstances. When one is young nothing seems to be impossible and as he grows older he wants everything to be certain.
Is it therefore correct to say that youth is a defect that is corrected with time?
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