LIVING SEPARATELY BUT HAPPY TOGETHER
One recent report has
suggested that average family size is shrinking. As compared to average size of
a family of seven members some decades ago, the current size is below four. This
has given a new term to family –nuclear family consisting of husband, wife and
one or two children. Joint families are giving
way in favor of nuclear families willingly or otherwise.
There have been many reasons for this, migration being the
principal one. This understandable because people have been migrating for
better opportunities for centuries and as such this is not a recent phenomenon.
While daughters went to other families after marriage, sons migrated to other
towns and countries. There was always the feeling of family. There was always
‘our family’ and not ‘my family’. The parental home was the home of all
irrespective of where the sons/daughters lived. Now there is my home, my
parents’ home, my brother’s home and so on.
Another reason is need for personal space. Not only children,
parents also need a little bit of independence. They no more like to be
security guards or baby sitters at home. They willingly agree to allow,
encourage and assist their children to live separately.
This is happening more frequently not only in service class
families but in business class families. There can be any number of reasons for
it but the most important is the financial freedom. Salaries have gone up.
Families have double incomes-both husband and wife working. This freedom has
given rise to the desire for personal freedom called space. In business also
there are n numbers of business opportunities and there is no need to stick to
traditional family business. Members of a traditional clothing house have
shifted to fast food, electronics or any other profitable business. There no
need to stay in the parental house also.
It has given rise to a new family system. The parents live
in parental homes, if any or in some old age homes. The children live in their
own homes sometimes in the same city. They meet occasionally mostly on
festivals. They keep in touch with phones or internet. The arrangements suits
to all. They live separately, yet they come together on occasions and are
happy. Poor parents survive on Government old age pensions, the middle class
parents on their retirement funds and the rich have many options.
In a way this is good except when the parents grow too old
to look after themselves or cannot afford to hire help. But the question is not
is it good or bad. This is the only option. Take it or leave it. Parents of the
world do not grumble. You did the same when you were young, may be a little
differently.
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